Maybe we do things wrong.
More specifically, maybe we do things for the wrong reasons.
We do things because we want the end result. We work out because we want a nice body, we learn guitar so we can impress our friends with our talents.
But if you don’t enjoy the process of doing those things, of working out, of learning guitar, you’ll never get the results you want, and more importantly, you’ll never be happy by doing them.
It’s just like the famous Greek poet Cavafy said about the poem “The Odyssey” by Homer. To add some context if you aren’t familiar with this poem, the Odyssey is about a Greek king Odysseus and his journey back to his home in Ithaka after the Trojan Battle.
“When you set out on your journey to Ithaca,
pray that the road is long.”
In conclusion when optimizing for a goal, sometimes the process towards achieving that goal is often more important than the goal itself.